Sunday, December 19, 2010

Is Christmas only for Kids?

We somehow developed this belief that Christmas is for kids. I guess the whole idea of commercializing Christmas and Santa Clause-giving gifts to kids concretize my claim. That is why when you asked kids of their favorite holidays, without a doubt they’ll answer “CHRISTMAS!”- In a happy, high pitch spirited tone with big smiles on their faces.

I remember during childhood that I am so excited for Christmas, I keep counting the days, making wish list, and hanging Christmas socks with my wish list addressed to our dear Santa Clause. New clothes, a lot of toys and lots of money!

But as I grew older, my excitement slowly decline or may be the Grinch is real and it is slowly stealing all of my good perception of Christmas. Or in a simpler explanation, I am just getting older and my interests are changing. I know that I share this same feeling with others.

Maybe Christmas is for kids, but it does not mean that old people has no elbow room to enjoy this season. I actually start to love this season again (aside from the bonus, etc.) but for a completely different reason.

It is not because of the new clothes, shoes, gadgets, etc. Let us just say that when you’re older, you try to give a different meaning on things you used to do when you are a kid (May it be negative/positive). Though I still enjoy getting gifts from friends and family, I somehow find myself happier with giving gifts.

Yes! I definitely enjoy looking for gifts for my friends and family. I love the thought that people gets to be surprised by my gifts. I love wrapping those gifts myself. First, I get to save more time than waiting so long in gift wrapping station. Secondly, it is really fun to give an effort on the gifts I give.

But more important from all of those material things, is I get to spend quality time with the people I love.

Merry Christmas to everyone!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Justice on the perspective of a lunatic

After watching death note I was left deep into my thoughts…

Light is a person with a great sense of justice. He even knows the system inside and out. And he has a strong sense of what is right and wrong. Who would actually think that a person like this can be so vulnerable and atrocious in his means?
I think there is really nothing wrong on having a strong sense of justice, it is actually important on the preservation and promulgation of law and order in society. The only problem is when a person acted upon his own concept of justice and emulate it in such ways he perceive to be correct.

May be, something just snapped and he is now on the making of a psychopath. Sometimes we can’t blame them since he just acted upon stimulus of events. In some cases these are brutish, inhumane, undignified series of events that pushed a person at a brink.

Seeing this, he felt that the justice he dreamt and believed in are simply ideas that were being sowed in the thoughts of everyone to hide the fact of a corrupt system. At this point that person already loses his trust on the system but still holds on his concept of justice.

A person like this may say that it is just to kill criminals, it is right to steal from the corrupt rich families, it is right to kill barbaric tribes. But putting justice on your own hands is not in any form justifiable. We must admit that the law is not perfect, because it is made by people who are fallible as well. That is why we can repeal, revise, re-enact, or abolish and create new set of laws or rules. The fact of the matter is, for something to be called justifiable, it should be agreed upon. For something to be acceptable it has to be on moral grounds. But this one is still in the gray area, and that is why different ideologies will arise on trying to explain this such as strain theory, just war theory, fundamentalism, Extremism, Civil disobedience, etc.

Human behavior sometimes is unfathomable when it is subjected to a stimulus or strain. We can sometimes crack up and snap when something we strongly believe in is destroyed.

Monday, September 20, 2010

Love as a resource: Is it depleting?

Can we qualify love?

Can we put value to love?

In ways that our imagination works, love can be associated with anything. But as far as reality is concerned, we can’t perform valuation and qualify the limits of love. Putting limits to what love can do, makes us beings not capable of feeling.In such cases, I would dare to explain love on something that I am familiar with; Love as a resource.

Love is an infinite resource. It is abundant and unlimited. We live in a world of order that was formed out of love and mercy of God. Everything around us is the creation of love. Imagining a world without love is simply living in chaos.

In a more interesting note, its abundance is the reason why we don’t seem to get tired of loving and caring for others. It is a resource that is non-rival and non-exclusive. Everyone can have access to it. It is like a seed planted in each one of us that we nurture and share its fruits to others. It is like a road that everyone shares. It is like a park where everyone can enjoy and relax. Love is a universal resource that makes up the very foundation of human interaction.

Can we trade love? Yes we can trade love in exchange for love. One important point of trading is for its appropriate reciprocity of satisfaction. Just like trading a goat for a sack of rice, there should be an equivalent satisfaction. But this satisfaction isn’t always mundane and romance. The satisfaction we get from shedding our love to others is the feeling of being loved in return. At times, we can trade love without expecting in return. You can choose to have an altruistic take on love. The good thing is, even if you don’t get love as an exchange, your love don’t diminish, like a pot of gold that never runs out of gold coins. Love as a resource quickly replenishes.

The important question now is; why are there people that fall out of love? Does this mean that there is a shortage of love?

This scenario is actually a by-product of the complicated social structure that we are in. Like in a market, we say there is a Perfect Competition just like saying that there is a perfect relationship. Ideally, I want to think of love and relationship like this. But we can never be sure, since imperfections around us makes it hard to achieve an ideal relationship just like imperfections on a market.

The nearest explanation I can get is the Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility. It is not really love that depletes. What depletes is the utility or satisfaction from the relationship you have. May be they got fed up on having the same routines every day. May be they lack the toil and trouble on making their relationship last longer. We have to consider, one good thing about LDMU is that you can prolong your utility from being diminished (Will come up of a new post particularly on this one). Meaning you can slow down the rate that your satisfaction declines.

But in the end, love is a very mysterious resource. It may be infinite and abundant like water, but the irony of it is that, finding its true meaning is a very rare resource just like diamond.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Friendly Love

A friend is someone who stays with us in times of fun and definitely in times of sorrow. We sometimes share with them moments that define who we are. But can this relationship be more than what it seems to be?

We always see ourselves falling in love to a person who understands us, stays with us, and take care of us. This is that same description that a true friend means. And this blurs the line of friendship and lovers. This brings me the question:

Can friends be lovers?

I say, why not? I even fell captive to this very same euphoric idea of love. It is like hitting a double jackpot on a lottery; having a lover and at the same time a friend. But it is not easy as it looks, as for my own story did not end well.
A friend falling in love is probably one of the most complicated things we will ever get caught up with.

But how does this develop? Well, it always started to something usual. May be he/she is your classmate, your org-mate, neighbor, and co-worker. You spent a lot of time together. You talk about each other’s life. You share food. You might even share about each other’s love life stories. Then unnoticeably you get closer and closer with each other. You as if can’t live a day without seeing him/her. Then you always wanted exclusivity and have time together away from the rest of your friends. And yes, this is when weird things happen.

He gets sweeter, like carry your things for you. Always ask you on phone if you have eaten yet then followed by an invitation to have lunch or dinner together. You will always receive text messages telling you good night and get some rest. Always wants to get updated on your life then show a grim face whenever you tell about your ex or crush. Generally, these are the common behaviors that a man exhibits when he fall in love to his friend.

On the part of the women, sometimes they can’t help to fall in love to her friend who seem to be sweet and a total gentleman. We can’t blame them for assuming that this guy is somehow trying to impress her especially if of all the girls in the group, she is the one being shown with this behavior.

I myself sometimes don’t recognize whether what we are having is the usual “a friend bonding” or already a mutual understanding. We can’t be certain on this unless we try to ask… The more important question therefore is, are you courageous enough to ask the question: “Who am I for you?”

Sometimes it ends well and sometimes it ends like crap.
Sometimes, the person being confronted is:
a. Totally not into you. (not a chance at all)
b. Have unsorted feelings for you. (still have a chance- wait and be consistent)
c. Conflicted about you and his/her current relationship. (a complicated one)
d. Just wanted to be friends (totally forget about the friendship..- IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME)

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Market Share of Brain and Heart in the Competitive Market of Love

If love is a market and there are two competing firms (Brains and the Heart), which should you listen to? Should you patronize one over the other or try a bit of what the two can offer? I guess the heart has higher market penetration for majority of those in love. These are the kind of people who easily gives in to what they see, or in this case, I’ll call them the Impulsive Consumers of love. They can easily be lured by the packaging of their subject of attention. They don’t need second guessing over their feelings; they just act on it. I will say that they are neither ignorant nor imbecile; it’s just so happen that they developed some sort of Brand affinity or loyalty over “heart”. We can’t blame them for that; the feeling sometimes of love is overpowering and overwhelming.

On the other hand, we have the Rational Consumers of love. You would seldom encounter people in love that uses their brains. They are the rare kind of consumers. Before they try on something, they will read the label or in this case the character of their partner. They probably aren’t the spontaneous type. May be they will have Quadrant Analysis and the “R-SWOT” (Relationship’s Strength, Weakness, Opportunity and Threats)- just an exaggeration…

Is there anything wrong if one has a bigger market share in terms of love? One way or another, we have to use both of them equally. Using too much of any of the two is proven harmful for a relationship. Over thinking may sometimes forget the most basic about love which is to feel. In contrary, using too much heart may blind you of the greater importance and essence of your relationship which is to rationalize.

My claim of having a balance is somehow contrary to popular beliefs that heart and brain’s interests are contradicting one another. But, I would humbly say no. Just like two competing firms, their common and shared interest is to have higher profit which will make them “happy” or “satisfied”. In retrospect, happiness is also the greatest driver in a relationship. In solving this dilemma, we can refer to basic business practice of merging the two firms.

Sunday, September 5, 2010

The Risk Premium of Risk Lovers

We sometimes worry too much about what to do with love… But behind all these worries we always dream of a life of security and stability with someone we care. But that dream is always faced with hurdles that are self inflicted. Your uncertainty on who you are and which path to take are weights and liabilities you have to carry.

Loving is risking. Because in love you risk yourself to uncertainty of the future over a life of clear demarcations and yes, even complacency and comfort. Upon deciding to take on a path of love, you are already creating a trade-off between a future with someone who might just betray or play on you over a life where you are the only one that should matter. You will let go of your comfort zone to give way to a possible great detour ahead with someone you love. This is the risk premium of loving. For starters, risk premium is the difference of the decisions you made to take on something (i.e. stocks) which are highly uncertain and volatile over something that is clear and well defined and without too much movement with the expectation of greater returns.

Like I promised in the previous post, I’ll discuss risk aversion in more detail. Most likely those who seek for higher risk premium are those who are risk seeker. Generally speaking, they are the adventurous type of person. They have higher tendencies to try new things. These are the people who in my opinion have endured and experienced a lot to keep on risking. In searching for someone to love, they are usually the kind of person to defy norms and stereotypes. These are the people who look for someone with unique characteristics that will give him/her the sense of mutual exclusivity. And that exclusivity is the premium on taking the risk on maybe having relationships. In love, we don’t see risk premium just only in its monetary value. The risk premium sometimes forego a life of sure luxury over a life wandering since the satisfaction the person is looking for, is a life that isn’t static. Could it be the right decision? We can say that for the average people no, because normally she should have chosen wealth. But we have to understand that it is in their nature to be nonconformist and unconventional.

Culture, Language, Geography, Age, Gender, and Wealth will set no boundaries for their love to see each other. We can say that they are the Romeo and Juliet of modern times. But at the downside, their love can be fatalistic and may lead to their own peril. Their love may also bring troubles to their loved ones like the love of Helen and Paris. But what else can we ask for, these are people willingly took this path for love. It may be right or not, because sometimes in love, we just have to follow our instinct.

Friday, August 27, 2010

On saying I love you

Can you imagine someone you love is looking into your eyes, and then touched your lips commanding your undivided attention? Then he or she will whisper to your ears the words “I love you”. This is being sweet and romantic in its simplest form yet doing it at the right moment can really prove effective on showing your affection.

The one I just talked about is very romantic. But can you imagine someone, telling you these same words right after your first date? That definitely goes to my top 3 list of spoiled first dates. If you are a guy never do that or you'll blow any chances you have with that girl. I mean, don’t look so desperate for love. Remember; don’t act like a Ted Mosby who almost had a shot at Robin (if you remember that blue horn episode of HIMYM). The girls might even freak out or worse is to be the girls’ pillow party subject of ridicule. You definitely don’t want to be called the douche-arrogant looking-stupid-insane-mad man.

Also, don’t ever say I-love-you if you are not ready for commitments. You might actually don’t mean it that way but there are some girls who might interpret it as “Babe it’s time to take this relationship to another level”. Oh yes, girls might have that tendency of putting a lot of meanings to what guys tells them. But to simply avoid any misunderstanding, just don’t say those words yet. Otherwise, you might just realize that you are already caught in a messy situation. That is the time when girls start to demand from you. And if you are not ready to get stocked into the pickle minded world better zip those words back to your ass.

On weird occasions, there are guys who are so madly in love with a girl for a long time and one day, he just can’t hold it anymore and tell the girl - I love you. Could there be any more stupid than this person? That girl is probably not just in shock but already in state of fear if you are - like a total stranger to her. So for guys who are fantasizing girls for a long time, then develop some feeling, GET HOLD OF YOURSELF. You might need to see some counseling or at least you can make circumstances where you can tell her "i love you" in a not so suspicious and non psychotic way.

Now let us get to the interesting part; there are guys who have developed some feeling for a girl unintentionally. Unfortunately that girl is his friend. So what should be my take on this matter? Number one rule is never say I love you all of a sudden. That will definitely make your friendship already impossible! Trust me, nothing goes back to normal when a friend admits he or she is in love with his or her friend! (I shall talk about this more in my future posts).

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Friday nights with party lights and happy sights

Working… Studying… And even Bumming can prove to be really stressful. We spent five days of awesomeness and at the end of it; we look forward for a single night of complete fun and spontaneity. It is a night to fill in with great stories and bitch slapping of our nemesis. Friday nights is the time of the week that we let those worries be washed away by a bottle of tequila and vodka.

Living in Metropolis makes all these things possible. A lot of places we could choose from. You can do bar hopping. You can watch at comedy bars. You can seat by the bay drinking with your friends. You can try playing laser tags. You can go to your friends place and drink all night. You can also have a DVD marathon with popcorn and nachos to match that keg. And you can sing the night away in a videoke marathon.

There are 3 important elements that we should not forget about this night. Number 1 is to always have your friends with you. These nights will never be the same without them. They could be your High School or College barkada. They can be also your office barkada. Or may be some random group you just bumped in and decided to go along. Your friends can be your wingman as well. This is the night when you just don’t care at all and so your wingman just won’t let you down on making sure that this night will end with a BANG! You also need your friend to bring you home when you get so drunk. You need your friends to dance with you in the dance floor. But most importantly, you need your friends because their presence and stories are like sources of energy that will make you feel strong again to face a fierce 5 days battle at work/ school.

Number 2 is to make sure that your attention is not divided. Focus! These are not any usual nights that you should be reading or working. Worrying won’t do any better for you and your friends. If you decided to go out and have fun, then don’t feel bothered. You should give yourself a guilt free pass to enjoy the night. If you keep mentioning things that are non-related to boys/girls, beers, sex (oh well) and partying, better zip it! That might just ruin the night of others.

Number 3 is never run out of those Mixes that complete that fun night. What makes things so spontaneous is the fact that we are not sober. That chemical just makes our night feels like there is no tomorrow. It allows us to feel confident. It allows us to talk more. It simply takes away your inhibitions that allow you to have the real fun and satisfaction that your body is looking for.

Here are some mixes that a friend of mine thought me to complete that night:
Bad boy-tanduay white tska four seasons
Kisay-redhorse,gin,sprite,calamansi
Bad trip-sprite, gatorade, gsm blue
Sprite vodka-vodka (toska/cosak/absolut),sprite,cherry
Rum coke-coke, rum(tanduay/granma)
The bar mix- the bar, nestea fit apple

Just remember that body works hard enough and so it needs a day, JUST a day, to feel rewarded. CHEERS FOR THOSE FUN NIGHTS AND SOON TO COME EPIC NIGHTS!

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Investing in Love

We are always in constant search for someone to love and hoping that if we find it, our affection gets reciprocated. Most often than not, we give almost everything from our time to our rationality when we fell in love. We get blinded by the euphoric feeling of love that made us vulnerable. At times, when our feelings are not commensurately reciprocated, we tend to feel the lack of self worth and a lot of self pity. And when things get from bad to worse and reach the tipping point, we snap. We then drown ourselves to too much crying and drinking.

This is a classic example of investing your time and emotion to an overrated concept of loving. You weren’t wise enough to think of the different possibilities of engaging to an investment that may or may not give you the worth of what you have invested such as time and feelings. Some will say, when you love someone, you are willing to give everything without expecting anything in return. I guess these are the people we all call as “saints”. I guess not every one of us will fall to that kind of love. And so, we shall differ ourselves from a martyrdom love to a romantic love.

Let’s try to walk ourselves through the process of love investment rudimentarily. First step before getting to a relationship is to know your worth. This is like knowing how much money you currently have. Second step is, after knowing your value you should know how much of your personal space and time are you willing to give up for your partner. This is like knowing the proportion of your current wealth you are willing to put into investment. Third step is to learn your risk aversion (I’ll probably devote another post on tackling risk aversion). This is the time when you ask yourself whether you are a risk seeker, a risk averse, and a risk neutral. This is where most people commit mistakes. They mischaracterize themselves because they no longer care who they are for the sake of their partner. In investment you have to learn this to know where to put your investment. If you are a risk averse person, you wouldn’t put your money into a stock that is volatile and register extremes in prices. In retrospect, if you are a risk averse person you should not get into relationship without clarity. You wouldn’t get into a relationship where there are too many complications like third party or unrequited past relationships.

Now, it is funny though that in investment the higher the risk on your stock the higher the returns could be (Generally speaking). This is the reason why a lot of people in Finance stumble because they automatically look at the returns and totally forgetting about the risks involved. In simple terms, if you are to go into a relationship, how much are you willing to forego just to be with the man/woman of your dream? Will it be at the expense of your friends? Will it be at the expense of your family? Will it be at the expense of your career? Being realistic, you wouldn’t really gain and retain everything you want, at some point in time you have to give up on it. This is the point in loving that you get or SHOULD rationalize (in my opinion).

What should I propose then as a solution? In investment the common solution to this dilemma is diversification. This is where you try to mitigate the ill effects of your probable bad decisions. (I’ll probably devote another post on this one).

In the end, we all want to be winners in love. But in doing it, we need to still balance out our heart, our mind, our gut feel and our faith with “love”.

The game of love: the rebound and the rebounder

We used to say that love is so mysterious and inexplicable. Well, yes it is an enigma! But how do we take on this kind of thing? Like I would always tell to my friends, just play it like a game. Set rules, set parameters, and just enjoy the whole thing. But there is this particular aspect of it that I would say is really controversial. This is a relationship where either of the two just broke up and the other one is so in dire need of someone. I call them the classic case of rebounder and the rebound.

Let us do the basics first, some elementary-love 101. The Rebounder is someone who just broke up with his boy/girlfriend who is seeking comfort from an opposite sex. This is a person who is day in and day out thinks of his/her subject of affection. This person is most likely does not realize that their relationship is falling apart. On the other hand, the rebound is a person who is most of the time single. A person who believes that Mr/Ms right will come to rescue him/her from loneliness. This person is usually someone close to the rebounder. It is most often than not the crying shoulder of the rebounder when things went from bad to worse. And finally, this is the person who keeps a secret altar of the rebounder in his/her room (my exaggerated way of describing a secret crush).

But the question is who plays the victim and the culprit in this scenario? I would say that the victim is the one who is more vulnerable while the culprit is someone who keeps on taking advantage.

The Rebound is always at the losing end of this kind of relationship. This person will most likely end up crying and cursing when things go back to normal for the rebounder. Let us take into account that this person is giving so much time and attention to the rebounder hoping that it will blossom to something romantic. Well, we can’t say that mr/ms. Rebound is a hypocrite for expecting so much. We can’t blame the person especially if the rebounder will call you at the middle of the night, if the rebounder always insist to see you, if the rebounder is keeping you away from your friends and trying to as if own you and your time.
Is there anything wrong in this set up? Is there anything wrong being so nice? Well it is complete bull crap! You can’t be the mother Theresa for the spoiled brat Rebounders who is selfish and insensitive!

What then will be my advice for possible rebounds? Number one rule if you want to get into this kind of bloody hell set-up, then you should be ready for a higher probability of being left behind. But I guess you don’t deserve to be left behind, so better yet set limits to how much will you allow the rebounder to occupy from your personal space. But if you are willing to play this game and play it like a pro, you should know how to mitigate the risk of pain! The absolute rule here is to never fall in love first with the Rebounder. If you fell in love first before the rebounder, then you automatically waved you right to play this damn game.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

UST: Guide for the food lovers (part 1)

A good way of coping up with stress is to find something that will make you feel good. And during college my comfort food is ice cream. When I am upset, get low grades, wasn’t able to give the answer to a recitation and cramming papers, I always eat ice cream and sundae at Mcdo & Jolibee. Food is my coping mechanism to stress. I am a self confessed Stress eater. On the other hand, when I am happy and in a mood for a celebration, I also eat! Eating as a treat or coping mechanism has become a daily part of my college life. You just can’t blame me. Streets around UST are haven for food lovers. You will have a wide array of Carinderias to choose from, with their own specialties that will tickle our taste buds.

Here are my favorites that are a must see for a food lover. I took the liberty to rate them as well with 5 as the highest.

1. Almers- You are not a Thomasian if you have not heard or tried this place. They are well known for their Sisig. You would just love to order extra rice together with their Sisig topped with egg. This place is also known for their “unlimited gravy”. Funny though that they will always give you a gravy even if it does not matched your food.

RATINGS:
Food- 3.5
Place- 2.5
Service-3
Location: at the back of Perpetual Help College
Price Range: 60 to 80

2. Kapitolyo- This is just relatively new in the business. But I must say that it certainly made an impact to the costumers especially located in one of the busiest streets in UST. Their Chicken Inasal is a must try from their vast menu. Although it is not as viral like others, it certainly made loyal customers (just like me). They serve big thigh parts that was cooked just enough to satisfy an average pallet. I must say that it closely taste like the big franchised restaurants. You can also order munchkins from the adjacent store where it will be delivered to you.

RATINGS:
Food- 4
Place-2
Service-3.5
Location: Along Asturias
Price Range: 55 to 80

3. Lovelite- This is probably one of the oldest and most popular Carenderia along Asturias. It has been there for like decades. It has been serving to students who are cramming for a paper or report and for students who are always in a hurry. They are well known for their Footlong with rice plus gravy and burgers. They continue to expand their menu and their store. They already include others from their menu and add tables to the exterior part together with its Xerox machines.

RATINGS:
Food-3
Place-2.5
Service-3.5
Location: Along Asturias
Price Range: 40 to 60

4. Mang Toots- Another place that SHOULD be visited by everyone. This place is owned by Mang toots who is a Big man that will greet you gleefully and ask you your order in the counter. His aura is just so inviting. Well what I always look forward here is its special Bananarama. This is a banana wrapped in molo then deepfried and glazed with brown sugar and syrup and rhum. I would just sometimes want to skip the main course and just devour the sweet tasting bananarama. At night, if you see torches along P. Noval, there is no questioning, that’s Mang toots.

RATINGS:
Food-4
Place-3.5
Service-4
Location: Along P. Noval
Price Range: 60 to 80

5. Pards- I chose this place not because of its sentimental value to me but because they just have the best Sinigang in town! Their hot Sinigang just never fails to makes me feel good especially if I have cold. I also love their Pancit Canton though at times it is a litthttp://www.blogger.com/blog-options-basic.g?blogID=8044554462126342048le saucy. And for “dormers” who doesn’t have a tv, then this is one of the few Carinderia where you can watch.

RATINGS:
Food-4
Place-4
Service-4
Location: Along P. Noval besides Beato Building
Price Range: 60 to 100

Saturday, August 21, 2010

From the Street to Hit

Ever heard about the words flip-top? Well I didn’t bother to Google it at first. Then one night I heard someone playing this weird-odd-bizarre video. People gathered like they are up for a big treat. I thought it is some sort of UFC battle or another “Don’t back down” and “Fight Club” scenes. Well, it turned out to be something else. The two person weren’t really in contact, no bruises and blood. So why are people look so intense and hooting so loud?

Then the battle begins. They weren’t exactly wearing any battle gears. It is more like exchange of words. I must say that their seemingly impromptu-rhythmical-wistful exchanges somehow stirred an interest in me. So I took some time to Google for it and even see some videos in YouTube.

Well I learned that flip top is a battle known as the First Filipino Rap Battle League. So I guess that explains everything. But my inquisitive mind somehow didn’t end there. I try to look at it on a different light.

I guess this is the way of institutionalizing a rap society in the Philippines. Well, we can say that this may somehow placed the freestyle rapping into the mainstream. At first I thought that this form of entertainment is just “bal-bal” and another perversion to the Filipino discourse. Well, I can’t help myself from linking this activity to drugs, violence, delinquency and illiteracy. Well at least, that is how the media portrayed it. But with what I’ve seen so far, it’s quite far from the usual stereotype on them. They are no longer in the streets; they aren’t exactly playing with guns and daggers; and the people around them don’t look like illiterate. Plus, you could pick your side as well from the rosters of peculiar street-like gang names like Skwaterhaws Mongol Unit.

Although I give props on how they turned things into something less brutish image of freestyle rapping, I’m still taken aback on how inane the exchanges are. Well we can’t expect any depth in it. So it might be fun listening to them. It is cool to laugh with all the bashing and trash talking. But I think there is nothing more to it. It is just another way of amusing and entertaining ourselves.

From College to MR

Well I guess I’m really part of the Labor force. It took me 4 months to realize that I can no longer be the carefree little boy. I seriously miss those days that I sleep late for a DVD marathon and wake up really late. Then meet up with friends and just worry about where to have lunch and where to spend the long breaks between classes. Now, I guess I can’t be that rascal who just bail out in classes and do anything I want. Now, I don’t have that much free time to stay up late just having that long conversation on pretty much everything. I miss those days that people are just a call or text away to do anything we want. Dinner at Carpark, Nitz, Pards (Sinigangan), Almers, Noval street BBQ, Copy Shop, Siomai House, etc. Watch at the movie house. Coffee at Starbucks, Dezaato and Ministop.

But I guess what I miss the most are those days spent on preparing for school activities, events and tournaments. And the people I’ve spent these days with.

Now, it is completely different. I have to wake up really early to avoid rush hour. Then I need to catch that FX. When I wake up, what I use to worry is my quiz and homework which I can definitely postponed for a moment and just worries about what to eat for breakfast. Now, it is breakfast coupled with worries on the data, their bases, their significance, and pretty much every detail about it. It is not as simple as problems given in schools like derivatives, econometrics, and alpha-delta-phi in the equations in finance. Now, it is all about the demands of the clients you have to immediately address. Now I also have to spend my nights working.

I guess this is the time when we all realize that we have to be responsible. This is when I realize what the real essence of meritocracy is in the real world. We probably spent most of our times in the comfort zones (with friends, with the school, with our bedroom, with our usual carinderia, etc.). Now, we just have to deal with almost everything.

But the most important realization I will probably ponder for a long time is something that everyone might be able to relate with. The pay checks, the salary, the bills!!! I must admit that the entry level salary for most of us is above the minimum pay. NOW, trying to picture living independently from your parents (financial support), this might not be enough. Wage rate here in Manila is easily overwhelmed by the wages in other countries. No doubt that we have a lot of OFWs. No wonder that savings is a myth for minimum wage earners. No matter how we tell and educate the people to change their mind set on savings, it barely makes a scratch given the situation. This is the bitter reality of being an employee. That is why no matter how we dare to dream of being entrepreneurs, it will be impossible. NOW, I can’t blame Marxist movements. I can clearly remember back in Macroeconomics that increasing wages can somehow be in a gray area. This may either make employees happy while profiteers are dismayed or make a backlash in the economy. Will there be any possible solution for this dilemma? Well, I guess for impatient people like me, this may probably take like a lifetime. But for optimists they probably tell you that it may take some time, and we just have to wait. But haven’t we waited for so long?

Now, after all these changes, I have to ask myself. Am I enjoying Market Research?
Well I cannot be certain. Maybe I enjoy MR. I enjoy the everyday learning. I enjoy summarizing the data. I enjoy the company of my newly found friends. I enjoy eating at my cubicle. I enjoy the round table. I enjoy talking to DP and field. Yet a part of me still left me wonders why I am doing this.

For now I guess, I’ll try a bit harder to wake up early. I’ll try to be more over compulsive/detail freak with the data. I’ll try to be consistent just like how consistently I play my I pod playlist of Jayson Mraz on my way to work. Well, this is the time I wish I am a real stoic to worry less about evaluation. Bryan the stoic, where are you?